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Individuals

Soon more here about AikiCom applied to your daily life, at home, with your friends, your lover, your children, your parents

Schools - Education

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Contact us if you'd like to know more about AikiCom for schools and education.

Coaching Therapy

Aiki-Coaching for coaches and therapists

DISCOVER AN EMBODIED PRACTICE

  • What Aikido brings you as a professional for your clients?
  • Powerful decoding models
  • Move your client into desired change
  • Your body is your ally
  • Address conflictual situations

We propose regular workshops for therapists, coaches, mediators

LEARN TO APPLY AIKI IN YOUR PRACTICE

Aiki-Coaching
Activating the energy of Harmony

The body is the ally

The body plays a crucial role in the change process. As Coaches, Therapists, and other Helping Professionals we cannot anymore address our clients mind. The body keeps the score and knowledge is only knowledge as long as it is not embodied. Change has to be enacted.

Most of our clients instatisfaction rest on conflict, dilemma and "welcoming" undesired life circumstances. Aikido is a wonderful and inspiring wisdom to handle all kind of attacks, pressure, conflict. It offers a way to escape to our Fight/Flight/Freeze reactions.

A powerful set of models and tools

As AikiCom and Aiki Coaching — the branch of AikiCom dedicated to helping professionals — are based on the modelling of the benefits of Aikido for our daily life, it is build up upon a set of amazing models

Decoding the present situation

You are probably skilled at questioning and identifying the structure of your client's experience. With Aiki Coaching you can question his/her body as a guide to discover what's behind the curtain of the story your client could be tempted to tell you.
The Aiki Sphere model is a surprising grid to interact with your client's body-mind.

The body doesn't lie, no?

Defining the future/solution state

Once again, your client's body knows better what is good for her/him. The Aiki Sphere is more than a decoding grid, it is a way to let your client clarify what he/she want .. really.

Initiating the change

The VOCAL model is helping to put your client in movement to reach his/her objective.

Business

Business and Organizations

MORE PERFORMANCE THROUGH WELL-BEING AND BETTER COMMUNICATION

Managing Conflicts the Aiki Way

Working in Team, Leading a Team

From Conflict to Dialogue

Coaching (Team/1 to 1)

Conferences, lectures

TRANSFORMING CONFLICTS INTO OPPORTUNITIES

 

Team-building, Smart-fun activities

MORE PERFORMANCE THROUGH WELL-BEING AND BETTER COMMUNICATION

Contact us. We’ll format a workshop just for you, from 1 hour to 3 days!


Join these organizations who are amongst our clients:



And also: ING, Haute Ecole de Namur Hennalux, Mentally Fit, AT Kearning, FormaForm, Bruxelles Formation,..

Activities

Entreprises and organizations

MORE PERFORMANCE THROUGH WELL-BEING AND BETTER COMMUNICATION

  • Managing Conflicts the Aiki Way
  • Working in Team, Leading a Team
  • From Conflict to Dialogue
  • Coaching (Team/1 to 1)
    • Team-building, Smart-fun activities
    • Conferences

    Contact us. We’ll format a workshop just for you, from 1 hour to 3 days!

MORE PERFORMANCE THROUGH WELL-BEING AND BETTER COMMUNICATION

TRANSFORMING CONFLICTS INTO OPPORTUNITIES

Coaches and therapists

DISCOVER AN EMBODIED PRACTICE

  • What Aikido brings you as a professional for your clients?
  • Powerful decoding models
  • Move your client into desired change
  • Your body is your ally
  • Address conflictual situations

We propose regular workshops for therapists, coaches, mediators

LEARN TO APPLY AIKI IN YOUR PRACTICE

Coaching

Finding ways to work and live better
Individual, in couple or with children.
Session in life in Aiki Centre in Rixensart (near Brussels)
or
Skype, zoom or equivalent sessions (conditions on request)
Rendez-vous: +32(0)478 204 504

AikiCom Workshops and conferences

DISCOVER AN EMBODIED PRACTICE

  • Discovering Aikicom

In 1 hour to 1 day you will be introduced to AikiCom principles and models and learn to apply them in your daily life

  • Basics of Aikicom (2 days)

A 2 days workshop to embody the essential of AikiCom and apply it in your daily life.

  • Verbal techniques & Négociation (Verbal Aikido)
  • AikiCom for couples & Relationships
  • Parenting with AikiCom

Regular Classes

  • Aiki Mindfulness
  • Aiki Dialogue (Bohm's Dialogue)
  • Conscious AIKIDO

Aiki Mindfulness

What if you discovered mindfulness while interacting with another person?

Mindfulness is an individual practice. You become conscious of your current reality, inside and outside.
Aiki Mindfulness is inviting you to discover how to be mindful while interacting with other people.

Health benefits–Aikido practice results in the steady improvement of physical and mental condition in daily life.
Aikido training emphasize: proper breathing, balance and posture.
Many Aikido exercises improve joints flexibility, range of motions and help preserve muscle mass and bone density.
Regular training gradually builds endurance and strength.
Exercise routine helps to manage healthy body weight.

Psychological benefits– Aikido exercises have the effect of increasing body awareness and concentration. Aikido practice helps to focus on present tasks and can improve memory and coordination.
Non- aggressive and non-competitive nature of Aikido can build self confidence and self esteem. Aikido training gradually leads to less antagonistic attitude toward any conflicts, emotional or physical.
Practicing with different partners during Aikido classes builds strong community bonds, friendships, reduces daily stress and help to preserve or create social skills. Cooperative spirit in practice creates a friendly, welcoming atmosphere, in which people of different genders, ages, and physical capacities can come together to learn Aikido and help each other along the path to a greater understanding of its principles.

NO FALL CLASSES PRINCIPLES

Each student is an adult with the ability to judge his level of participation and his need to sit out or take a break,
No kneeling, rolling or falling is required
The practice is primarily principle-based exercises; however the attacks, movements and techniques will be martially sound (per my level of understanding and ability) and practical application will be demonstrated

Aiki Dialogue

Aiki dialogue is inspired by Bohm's dialogue. It is a kind of Aiki Mindfulness but with words.
Listening somebody else's story is a power way to be trapped in our thoughts.

VOCAL model

THE VOCAL MODEL IS PROTECTED BY CREATIVE COMMONS LICENSE. YOU CAN USE IT FREELY FOR PERSONAL USE AS WELL AS INTEGRATED IN YOUR ACTIVITIES AS A TRAINER AS LONG AS YOU MENTION IT AS A AIKICOM MODEL DEVELOPED BY Christian Vanhenten. ANY WRITTEN REFERENCE MUST MENTION THE LINK TO AIKICOM WEBSITE.

The Vocal model has been defined in 2017 as the core model of AikiCom. This model is the result of more than 10 years of AikiCom training and coaching and more than 20 years of research about the benefits of aikido in all domains of life.

The VOCAL model is at the same time very simple and really efficient. It describes a process, the process each experienced aikidoist is executing when practicing aikido.

Starting from this sequence, AikiCom has built a powerful tool to face conflict and difficult situations.

The VOCAL process

VOCAL is the acronym for "Verticality - Orientation - Connection - Action - Letting go". Let's take a closer look at these 5 letters:

V - Verticality

Verticality characterizes our human nature. It represents our dignity. When we are vertical, we are aligned.

The vertical axis is the axis of being. We don't do anything: we are. This axis is connecting the sky to the earth, through our body. Aikido founder, Morihei Ueshiba, used to stay that the human being is a bridge between heaven and earth.

The sky in AikiCom is the place where we locate our values, all what is important. Justice, equality, kindness, perfection, openness, fun, happiness, are examples of values. We are not always in contact with all these values. At each moment some values are important in the current situation. The sky is changing with time.

The earth in AikiCom represents the constraints that we have to face, what we cannot change nor control. We cannot escape to gravity. It is the force that sticks us to the earth. The same applies to our constraints. The adage "Don't fight the problem," reminds that it is not worth fighting it. So we put it in the ground and we try to take a good stance on it to orient our action.

The vertical axis is connecting the earth to sky and passes through our body. It is not a rigid axis. It may be compared to a channel in which our vital energy is circulating and information is exchanged between the three centers that are part of the AikiCom approach:

Getting back to our verticality is getting back to all the dimensions of our being:

This way we can consider what has to be done in a balanced way. Our action will start from ourselves.

O - Orientation

The next step is the O of Orientation but also of Observation and Openness.

As soon as I come back to myself, I start observing my environment. What do I see, hear, smell ? Who is there ? What is he/she doing ? What is there ? How is it spatially organized ? Is there movement ?
And the most important question: what requires my attention? Answering this question will orient my body in the adequate direction.

This observation phase is a 360° observation that ends with the orientation of our body mind in one direction (even if we keep a wide vision). Openness is here a critical quality to avoid being focused (tunnel vision) that would blind me from other important elements or elements that would appear suddenly.

C - Connection

Connection is a transition. We pass from the I-phase to the We-phase. It started with the openness of the previous step. If we oriented toward a person (in a fight it would be an attacker, or another person in a situation of conflict) we will establish a connection. This connection begins by going out of the line of danger if there is one and is intended to weaken the frontiers between me and the other person. This is a direct application of aikido practice. In aikido we don't fight against the attacker. We try to transform conflict by connecting to the opponent. This transforms the opponent in a partner. This paves the way to the Action of the next step.

A - Action

Acting is doing, speaking, expressing, moving, looking,… But it is also not doing, not speaking, not moving. It can be listening, being present, closing, opening, vibrating, giving, offering, receiving,…

The VOCAL model is a generic model. Impossible here to determine the action that has to be done. The decision is the result of flow circulating through our centers. Thoughts, emotions, intuition produce this action in accordance with our values (sky) and the constraints (earth) we have to accept (rather than withstand) .

L - Letting Go

When the action is executed, we could be tempted to try to control the effect of the action of previous step. In many cases it is possible but in many others it is not possible. Certainly when other people (or more generally other living beings) are involved or in case of complex situations.

This step seems easy but it proves to be maybe the more difficult step in the VOCAL process. As, when we act, we like to get the expected result.

The Letting Go step is crucial to not getting lost in action. It creates the opportunity to perhaps initiate a new VOCAL cycle.

Applications of the VOCAL model

The VOCAL model is an efficient to for the coach doing aiki-coaching. Aiki-coaching is a somatic coaching. The body plays an important role in aiki-coaching and the VOCAL model is way to explore the coach's experience and invite him to experiment the solution state he defined during the session.

The VOCAL model is useful for developing our emotional intelligence. The V of the VOCAL is a real mindfulness practice. The C is practice of empathy and compassion. The A coming after the V-O-C steps is a wonderful way to learn how to interrupt acting purely on the basis of emotion or impulsively.

The applications are so numerous that a detailed description would require an entire book. AikiCom workshops illustrate the multiple possibilities of this generic model. Limiting ourselves to pure a cognitive understand of its components cannot be sufficient. We have to embody the model by practicing it in various circumstances to make it a life changing model.

The monkey, the lion and the garden

3 centers ape, lion, monkey

This picture to illustrate how we live with our three centers.

Our mind is like this monkey: playing, moving, making noise.

Our emotional center is the lion of our life. It is coloring our experience, sometimes in a comfortable way, sometimes in a painful and bitter manner.

And then there is our somatic center. The place where should be, where we ought to be. But a place where, most of the times, we forbid ourselves to enter.

Like a boy or a girl looking through the fence of a beautiful parc. He or she sees how beautiful it should be but he dares not enter the parc. Why ? Maybe because it is to beautiful, so calm, maybe not for him/her, for others, yes, but not for him/her…

And meanwhile, the monkey is keeping us busy while the lion sleeps, tired by the monkey’s gesticulation. Or faking to sleep as he could spring so rapidly.

Develop an internal culture to withstand external pressures

True stories, Chris Thorsen - part1

This article is part of a serie of stories of how aiki can be applied in business for better leadership. They show how business success depends on the spirit of the leaders, the way in which they source their power, and their willingness to be guided. Chris Thorsen and Richard Moon (Quantum Edge), the authors of these testimonies, help executives develop the inner mastery skills required to achieve a unified spirit in the midst of today’s complex, high pressure business world. 

At a large, computer chip manufacturer, a start-up team was floundering in its efforts to create the entrepreneurial culture needed to produce the smooth and timely manufacture of its new product. Team members, representing several departments across the company, had begun the endeavor by playing “poker,” that is, by holding their cards close to themselves and bluffing regarding schedule commitments. At one point the resulting confusion actually stopped the manufacturing line.

The team leader invited us to help with the situation; our involvement brought ongoing team building that included Aikido exercises emphasizing integrity and the power of blending. This experiential learning increased the team’s valuing of cooperation and enabled members to be open and honest with one another for the duration of the project.

We also enabled this entrepreneurial team to develop an internal culture that could withstand the external pressures of its surrounding environment. Once the early breakdowns had occurred, the parent company’s senior executives, using a more traditional management approach, increased the intensity of their project monitoring, wanting to advise on every move. In addition, mid-way through the project, success was assured by a very large customer commitment, but ironically, this sale brought with it huge demands and a need to interact well with yet another established company culture different than their own.

Aikido principles helped the team envision itself as a ball (a metaphor for cultural integrity) -- able to respond to pressure by rolling or bouncing but never being crushed or deformed by negative influences of the more powerful organizations.

The results: this product start-up team thrived, increasing their revenue from 20 million a year to 20 million a month within the span of a single year.

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